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| About a month ago my youth group broke all trust while on a group outing. I have explained to them that they have to rebuild trust and they have excepted this challenge. |
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About a month ago my youth group broke all trust while on a group outing. I have explained to them that they have to rebuild trust and they have excepted this challenge. Some of them think they got away with something because they didn't fess up but in reality they are just hurting the group more by continually lying. I feel like the other kids in the group are being punished because the other ones are not telling the truth. As far as they are concerned it is a dead issue but I can't seem to get over it. I don't know what to do or where to go from here. Another question I have is I feel like a babysitter at times. Half of my group is grounded from all activities except youth group functions. They ask me to go to take them to other activities that they could not go to if I didn't take them. If I have something else going on I do tell them no but if I am available I feel guilty if I don't take them. Where do I draw the line? I enjoy hanging out with them but I think I might be trying to be too much of a friend to them and they know it. What should I do?
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As a youth worker, it is always a challenge knowing proper boundaries and how to build trust in the lives of students. You are "agonizing" over the right issues. I know that may sound trite to you and not very "helpful" but the issue you are struggling with is one that every youth worker has had to work through. Here's a couple of suggestions...teach your students trust...teach them that trust is TRUTH IN RELATIONSHIP. Tell them that you are going to be uncompromising on truth. Give "rewards" for truthtelling. Don't get into any situation where there is not truth. If you stand strong and tell them the reason for your strength and adherence to the truth, they will have to grow to respect you. If they don't, then your giving in just to relationally connect with them will actually end up cementing values you don't want to see perpetuated. You have to be the adult. You have to be the example. Start there confidently!
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Today's Broadcast:
Fitness for Your Family - Part 2
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