I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. I can certainly understand your confusion. Let me say first off that physical abuse against a spouse and/or children is always wrong! There is no excuse. I believe that you were right to protect yourself from this abusive situation. By no means does God expect you to live under the constant threat of abuse.
Having said that, I can't say that divorce is okay. I understand that it is a reality that many people, and even many Christians, experience. But, from my understanding of the Bible, it is clear that divorce is not God's intention for marriage. It seems to me that divorce for trivial reasons is always wrong; always sin. But, in cases of adultery, and abuse, Bible scholars and theologians have disagreed over whether divorce is permitted Scripturally. So, unfortunately, I don't have an easy answer for you.
My advice would be that you seek the advice of your pastor and/or from a Christian counselor.
Let me also suggest that you read a book that although I have not read, comes hightly recommended in situations like yours. It's called Bold Love by Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III.
May God grant you wisdom and peace in the midst of this season in your life.
The HomeWord Team |
