Thank you for getting in contact with us. What you are describing is very common. Once a couple has begun dating there is a new intimacy between them. They have crossed the line of friendship and entered the world of exclusive dating. And dating, in fact, is a type of practice toward marriage. Then, when a couple breaks up, it becomes very difficult to reestablish the former friendship. In fact, many cannot go back to being just friends. It's just impossible to walk backward on the path of intimacy, even if the intimacy developed was only holding hands.
I would encourage you to give him some space and not expect too much on the subject of friendship. Continue to be polite and do not speak negatively of him to your friends. If he will not accept your apology that is his choice. You must do your best to do what is right but you cannot make someone else do anything. How he chooses to respond to you is his choice.
It is likely that in the future you will regain your friendship with him. For now, allow some space between the two of you. Focus on your relationship with God, your family, and your girl friends. Enjoy your time in high school and the life God has given you. There's plenty of time later to be involved in dating relationships.
Blessings to you,
Leslie |
