Question:Should my 14-year-old daughter confront girls who are rude to her and make her feel inadequate? She is in cheer and she doesn't feel accepted by them. Or should she just pray for them and keep a guard over her mouth and have a gentle spirit?
I think it is completely appropriate for your daughter to share her feelings with the girls who are mistreating her. If she does do this, remind her to share how it hurts her - but to stay away from attacking the girls. The reality of this situation involving mid-adolescent kids, however, is that if she does confront the girls, there is a chance that it may aggravate the situation. There's just no guarantee either way. Therefore, regardless if she confronts the girls or not - your idea that she pray for the girls, keep a gentle spirit towards them, and watch what she says with them should be part of the plan.